How I Discover My Feminine Fashion & Attitude

Picture of yours truly Oh Natalie!!! <3

Most girls in the U.S. have a mother they look up to for guidance to womanhood for fashion, makeup, attitude & poise.

Some girls grew up watching their mother put on that red classic lipstick & fix their hair & can't wait til they are old enough to play & put on makeup.

Me on the other hand it was on the contrary; my mother grew up as a Seventh Day Adventist before she converted to Non-Denominational Christianity & as a Seventh Day Adventist you were not allowed to wear makeup or jewlery.

My mother never knew how to wear makeup because no one taught her so therefore I grew up never seeing my mother wear makeup or let alone fix her hair. I had such a desire to be beautiful & exquisite because as a child I was bullied for being called ugly & only wearing mix-matched second-hand clothes.

I would cry everyday wondering why I was so ugly & why no one wanted to play with me? why can't I wear beautiful clothes like all the other pretty girls would wear? so I became obsessed with discovering fashion for myself to work with what I got and to stand out from the crowd.

I grew up with parents that are super cheap even to this day they are still very cheap. I didn't grow up with computers or internet or even cable on t.v. so I used my imaginations a lot.

One of the discovery I saw one time on t.v. as a little girl was on PBS channel was a competition for Ballroom dancing, as a kid I was so amazed by these beautiful women on how they wore their hair, makeup, their glamorous dress & jewels.

The way how they moved with grace & poise & my favorite was when I saw the latin ballroom, these women were beyond grace they were sexy in a tasteful way. I wanted to grow up & be a latin ballroom dancer because of that & I also love dancing.

At the age of 13 my mother introduced me to old classic movies & my very first movie I saw was called "Daddy Long Legs" starring Fred Astaire & I became obsessed with all of Fred Astaire movies that every week I would go to the Movie store & go to the classic VHS section

(yes we still had VHS player at that time while having a dvd player as well)

& I would rent all movies that starred Fred Astaire to watch his beautiful dances & eventually came across an all time favorite & the first woman to inspire beauty that I wanted to be like called "You Were Never Lovelier" starring Rita Hayworth.

How I wanted to be everything she was; old fashion, beautiful, poise, alluring, graceful, feminine & glamorous fashion, & an incredible dancer.

Of course I had to go through high school phase & continue to play with makeup & fashion with what I got but it wasn't until I finally saved up enough money to go to College in Sydney Australia & at the age of 21 turning 22 I got my hands on youtube & looked up makeup & hair tutorial pin-up style!

I have learned tricks of Marilyn Monroe beauty hacks, Rita Hayworth Hair styles, to even Dita Von Teese advice glamour tips & that is how I learned how to do my own hair & makeup.

How I hold myself I learned by simply watching the old classic movies & watched how the women walked, use their vocabulary, how they ate & hold their knife & fork, even to the way how they flirted I have learned these things on my own within time to embrace my feminine womanhood & I have also noticed another thing; the way how I carried myself is the way how I will attract certain men in my life.

"Dress how you want to be addressed" I have seen certain girlfriends of mine go through many heart breaks because of the way they see themselves & carry themselves.

If your the type that speaks unintelligent, & use slangs like a Mexican chola, ghetto, or urban talks guess what? you will attract men that are exactly that.

If your the type that likes to dress a bit on the modern version of "sexy" & openly express of being sexually experienced you will also attract men that are the same way that majority will never take you seriously or even let you get close to him emotionally & bring home to mama.

I have been fortunate to be approached by decent men with a good head on their shoulders & who even send me flowers & love letters when they pursue me because of the way how I speak, dress, & carry myself.

When I flirt watch out! because that means I don't take you seriously & I just want a free drink & attention & to be kissed by the end of the night & thats it.

Very rarely I do that because most of the time I don't like to entertain men, but when I do I am even surprised at myself of how easily I can wrap them around my finger; when I flirt my inner "Marilyn Monroe" comes out to play.

I watched how she flirted & one thing I noticed when she flirted with a man was how witty she would respond to them and always flashing them that alluring & adoring smile as if they are the only man in the room.

Throughout my life with talking to men that were interested in me one thing they have always said that they liked most about me & the first thing they notice is my eyes & my smile, they all say I have a beautiful smile; of course I don't see what they see but I took that to my advantage to flirt differently compare to how most women in the clubs would flirt; I would smile at them as I adored them & even laugh at them when they do something cute & even poke their nose like a child as I smiled at them because that was how Marilyn would flirt; she would touch them & treated them like they were babies & the men ate it up & guess what? they still do to this day when I have tested that theory!

I remember a man came up to me in a club & said "I want you." usually thats coming off strong & I don't like it when men come off too strong & creepy like that but to hold my witty sense of humor with charms & to kindly reject but still remain mysterious I have replied to this young man with this respond "I don't blame you" & walked away.

However if there is a man I want to play with for that evening instead of making the first move I make them believe they made the first move & how I do that is I have my signature drink in hand & bring out my "Rita Hayworth come hither" eye contact while drinking & then naturally the men approach & took my bate & continues to buy me my drinks for the rest of that night.

I learned how to flirt the way these glamorous women in the 30s, 40s, & 50s would flirt with poise, graceful but playful at the same time. Like I said when I flirt watch out because it means I will not take you home to meet my parents what so ever.

I find it so fascinating that you can makeup your own world & be whatever it is that you want to be which is why I have two mottos I live by:

1. "Dress how you want to be addressed"

First impressions matter, you never know who you can run into, you could be meeting the love of your life so dress to impress & how you want to be addressed by anyone.

2. "Fake it till you make it."

I may not be rich, i may not be the smartest person, but I dress as if I have a comfortable living & I speak as if I know what Im talking about & most people buy it. which is why I read a lot & watch movies & t.v. shows with subtitles to see what vocabulary they are using that sounds intelligent & how they use it with decorum.

It's never too late to create your own version of a beautiful, glamorous you!